Tuesday, March 18, 2008
What would you do?
I am facing a situation that I was hoping I wouldn't have to face for a good 5-7 years. The last week has been wonderful weather so, Makayla and I have been spending a lot of time outside. Our little neighbor girl (Kayla- whose is 8 by the way)- has been wanting to play with Makayla. I am okay with them playing in our yard but Kayla doesn't think that is fun enough. She asked me a few days ago if Makayla could come to her house and play in her room. I told her I really didn't think it was a good idea but she ended up taking her anyway. I thought well maybe she didn't hear me... since she was already leading my 2-year old child over to her house. I quickly ran over there and knocked on my neighbors door to claim my child. Kayla answered the door... I told her that Makayla needed to come home. Kayla informed me that Makayla was playing in her room and that she could stay. I was dumbfounded- I have never had an 8 year old talk to me like that. Anyways- I got my child back and went home. Well, yesterday I get a knock on my door and again Kayla came over to see if Makayla could go to her house and play in her room. I told her that I really didn't think it was a good idea. And this little girl kept arguing with me. Telling me that I told her Makayla could come play. I told Daniel later on that night that I'm not ready for all this... plus I really don't want my 2 year old hanging out with a child that will back talk an adult. I really don't know what to do... should I go talk to her mom? Should I let Makayla go play? I don't want to be an overbearing mom but I'm not ready to let my 2 year old "hang out" with friends. Any suggestions????
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4 comments:
Jenna, YOU are the Mom here. And while its hard to put your foot down, you need to remember Mikayla isnt old enough to be making her own decisions yet. And any 8 year old that talks back like that doesnt need to have your 2 year old in her room! I would explain nicely that Mikayla is too little to play over at at her house without an adult there, but she can come to your house. If that doesnt good enough, then it is time for her mom to get involved.....
Hope this helps!
Jenna, I think Jaime's advice is good, but I would also NOT let the litle girl back talk. If she can't be respectful to you in your home then I would not let her even play with Makayla. Makayla doesn't need to learn that disrespect towards adult figures. Hang in there sweetie, this too will pass. Love you, MOM
Oh man. I can imagine the "I'm not ready for this" feeling! I would definitely just keep things on your turf. :) If you don't mind her coming to play in your yard, then just keep it at that. Continue to tell her that Makayla is too young to go over and play there without you. It's too bad the mom isn't around to reprimand the disrespect--if she's disrespectful to you in the future and mom isn't there, you could start telling her that it's not ok to talk to you in that way. And you can say it nicely (I know you & I both hate to be confrontational). :) Ok, I'm going on way too long here! Good luck. Let us know how it goes....
Honestly, I would bypass any further conversation with the little girl and go straight to her mother. Let Mom know that while you don't have any problems with her daughter playing with Makayla in your yard, under your supervision, that you don't feel comfortable letting Makayla play at her house. She is just 2 years old- I wouldn't let Savannah go to her house either!! But this way you and the Mom will be on the same page- so if the daughter tries to bring Makayla the mom can help step in and intervene, too- and explain why it's not allowed.
Sorry, this is a tough one! I hope it gets better soon!
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